Educated: A Memior – Tara Westover

Hi friends!

I finished this book a couple of weeks ago. What a WILD ride. This book reminded me a lot of The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls… But, unlike TGC, I didn’t ever wish *more* terrible things were happening (I had a LOT of guilt for reading TGC and occasionally wishing it was “spicier” with “crazier” content… I mean, damn, that’s someone’s life!!) Educated had NUMEROUS, OUTRAGEOUS things happen. I was definitely on the edge of my seat through a LOT of it. *spoilers ahead- skip to last paragraph if you don’t want to know*

So, there really is so much to unpack here. Obviously, the biggest reoccurring issue is domestic abuse/mental abuse. I was upset so many times that Tara was left to protect herself… how her family could turn a blind eye at the abuse she was suffering at the hands of her own brother. It made me so sad. I was thrilled she got out of that alive, and I honestly hope this book puts her brother in a position to be watched (for the protection of his wife and kids). It’s so scaring that she’s out here living this life…. living so close with danger for so long… It took it out of me just reading about it, to be honest.

The second biggest issue was the lack of care/attention this entire family received. It makes me sad for the families of American’s that abuse the individual rights to hole-up their families in unsafe ways, like Westover’s father did. Refusing to seek care for such serious injuries, like what Mom suffered when they wrecked, should be 100% illegal. More so, then these very damaged people move on to performing more damaging actions (midwifing with no training!) And, like in Tara Westover’s case, some of these families use there off-the-grid ways to hold their children hostage in that life style.. Clearly not the case in this book, but you can see how hard it is to break out of that life! So much of it could be considered mental abuse, but it’s just categorized as “freedom of expression” or “freedom of religion”. It’s scary, and so sad for the kids born into that.

I loved the story of triumph. Breaking free from her family in the book was uplifting to me each time she got away. The way the story is written, you genuinely worry for Westover’s safety when she makes the journey home. School in this book was a refuge, and although it was difficult for her many times, each time the book moved to that space it felt safe.

Over all, I really, really enjoyed this book. I liked the honesty that Tara Westover included in it. The rawness of some of the worst points (not knowing what the Holocaust was, her brother’s use of the N-word, her families sick protection of her brother) was so important to her story and how she developed. I think it also helps put other people’s privilege in check. Reading how other people treated Tara’s ignorance with hatefulness instead of trying to explain is a stark relativity for how so many people treat one-another.

All that being said- I hope you read this book! It’s good. I hope it inspires you to learn more and keep reaching like it did me! Stay inspired, my bibliophiles!


Hunger: A Memoir of (My) Body – Roxane Gay

Hi fellow bibliophiles!

*trigger warning * sexual violence

As I’ve talked about, I hadn’t read a book fully in 2 years… No matter how many amazing books I bought/rented, I just could not force myself through them. I wasn’t hunting out Roxane Gay’s “Hunger: a Memoir of (My) Body”, but it jumped out at me when I was perusing the online options. I had remembered a friend suggesting Gay’s “Bad Feminist” to me years ago (I bought it, but have yet to read it). Then, once my small book haul came in, I again looked at my options and AGAIN Hunger jumped out to me. I’m so thankful I read this book at this time in my life.

Hunger is a book about Roxane Gay’s human body. This book was not an easy book to get through emotionally (I teared up on page 8), but it was easy to read. As a fat woman, this book resonated with me. As a fat woman currently struggling with her weight and self-image, it knocked me back. There were passages in this book that I honestly thought Gay plucked straight from my brain. Many, many of the challenges, concerns, anxieties that she talks about in this book I too struggle with. It was therapeutic to read these thoughts in a book.

Hunger is also a book about Roxane Gay’s past sexual trauma. Gay details the tragic events that occurred in her adolescence- giving her love to the undeserved, that person taking advantage of her, being raped, feeling broken and unworthy. She shares how this singular event had a profound and toxic causality on the following years.

Hunger is also a book about Roxane Gay’s identity. As a female in modern society, so much of every single one of our self-worth ends up being tied directly to the size of our body. At multiple points in the book, Gay points out that to be feminine is to be shrunk; we’re encouraged to be smaller, quieter, less seen, more submissive. So, as a very fat woman, where can we fit in? Gay tried to “hide in plain sight” by using muted tones, non-formfitting clothing, and even staying silent when her voice could have been heard. All efforts to shield herself from future harm at the hands of men.

To fully understand my stance with this book, you probably should know I am a fat-skinny-fat again woman. I have been in every single weight category you could think of (except “too skinny”). I’ve been told my BMI is too high since as long as I can remember. I have been fat shamed by doctors threatening to hold medications I needed if I did not lose weight. I have been mocked for my size. I have been on many diets. I have tried to learn self-acceptance. I have tried the “hard-love” to get thin. At one point just a few years ago, I had success in losing weight- 90 lbs! But the changes were not as long lasting as I had hoped. I’ve gained most of it back. I am currently a fat woman. I am currently trying to lose weight, but with a focus on just wanting to be as active as possible. It is a slow and daunting journey… one that apparently won’t start itself though.

So, here are my thoughts on the book!

I loved this book. There were so many deep and thought provoking statements throughout. On page 8, I teared up reading “There were a great many people in my own life who saw my body before they ever saw or considered me.” I felt that closely in my heart (especially feel it in terms of dating). She also wrote how she struggles with understanding why the condition of her body is not solely enough for her to want to make a change. I, too, have struggled with that self-destructive thought process. There were many, many profound moments in this book that had me shaking my head “YUP!” I enjoyed that. Reading a lot of those felt relate-able, but also it felt like a wake up call! Her self deprecation was a like a mirror turned to me. I was amazed how a strong, articulate woman can think so little of herself… but aren’t we all in the same boat? Diminishing our self despite being amazing humans?

What I probably love most about this book is that Roxane Gay uses her voice to not only try to get others to see how life is for those with “unruly” bodies, but she also opens the door for those with “unable” bodies. Being body positive has to be all inclusive, and I’m thankful she’s recognized that for this book.

I also liked that she talked candidly about her body. She spoke in a way I identify with. She calls the body what it is- a vessel for a soul, which happens to include fat. At the same time, she is acknowledges how words still sting and how “hard people” (but really sensitive with a mask) can still be hurt by the things people say. Throughout the book, it’s apparent that actions can also have a life changing effect on people. Towards the end she talks about who she thinks she could have been if not for the “good” boy/s that raped her. I saw these messages as warnings to treat others more kind.

There was only one aspect of this book that I didn’t love. Self-acceptance the the body positive movement are both so important. She does well with most of the book, but when talking about the other gym goers taking her machine I felt like it was fell into a “skinny-shaming” stance. We have all been envious of others, but the narrative of “why are they here” is dangerous. I wish that portion had been omitted, but I understand its to allow readers to see how deeply this all had affected her life and thoughts. This is why I was very happy she had the positive all-inclusive message at the end.

All in all, I would a million times over recommend this book. I LOVE Roxane Gay, as an author and a person. I have been following her on twitter and just love reading her witty thoughts and retorts. She is a beautiful, powerful woman and it’s messages like hers that I’m more than HAPPY to share!! So, please… get out and read this book! It’s amazing. It’s a message that needs shared.


Happy Reading,


Hello visitors!

First- thank you to all those that continue to visit my blog despite it being virtually dead for so long. I was very surprised to see so much traffic when I logged back in today. It’s been 2 years since I was actively book-blogging. Tragic. To think of all the books I could have been reading and talking about… but, like most people, life took me in other directions.

Here is some of what has been happening since my last book blog:

-I left my last “new job” within a year for my current position. It wasn’t a terrible place- but the pay wasn’t enough for the stress I was encountering. I can now safely say I’m at my most comfortable. My work culture is supportive and amazing. My pay is good. The benefits are great. My stress is down. It’s not as easy as some believe to “pull yourself up by the bootstraps”. I’ve put many, many hours into shitty jobs to get to this position. If you are struggling in your jobs- I encourage you to reach further. For your health and happiness, keep reaching.

-I ended my 9-year relationship. There were too few compromises left, so I had to go. It wasn’t easy, but I feel emotionally lighter. I struggled in a difficult relationship for way longer than I should have, so again I encourage you to step away from situations that no longer positively serve you.

-I bought a house!

-I bought a dog! My pup Otis is a golden retriever. He was born in 2017. If I’m being honest, I bought him when I was struggling, living on my own in my apartment. I wanted company, but my boyfriend of the time was unwilling to move in. Otis was an impulsive decision. I don’t regret buying him one bit. He has a head injury that gives him a mohawk, and he came to me like that. He’s the sweetest, most loving doggo I’ve known.

-I gave up on a lot of things. In early 2017, I wasn’t feeling happy. My relationship at that point was unstable. I don’t want to define what I was feeling as depression, because I don’t think I was depressed. I just lost complete interest in doing things I like. I quit reading, quit working out, and quit painting rocks (which, if you remember, were kindness rocks I placed all over my town!) I had worked really hard in 2015 to lose ~90 lbs, but I gained a lot of that back because I just lost the focus and willpower to do the things I needed to do to maintain. I’m slowly (very slowly) working to get back to owning my willpower. It’s hard and it’s slow, but it won’t come back on its own… so I might as well get focused.


So! I’m refocusing on my favorite things. Reading is one of them! I plan to devour as many books as I can this year! My first book of the year is Hunger by Roxane Gay. I’m so excited about this book- I can’t wait to review it for you guys after I finish it (probably today or tomorrow!)



So again, thank you all for stopping by. Thank you for continuing to be interested in what I think about books I’ve read. It means a lot to me.

-me, LK


Side Note (but still, very important):

I’m very aware that at least two of the authors for the books I’ve read and reviewed have been publicly accused of sexual misconduct of some kind. Junot Díaz and Aziz Ansari have been in the public light in the wake of the #metoo movement for their own accused sexual aggressions. I want to say that despite whatever thoughts I felt regarding their books, I am sickened reading the stories the women accusing them have shared. I think it’s important that we listen and give support to the individuals that come forward and share their uncomfortable and difficult stories. Further, I think it’s important to amplify those voices and send a clear, concise message to the perpetrators of these actions: sexual misconduct is not and will never be tolerated. You can not and will not escape the actions you do. Fame will not excuse you.. Money will not excuse you. And if the justice system can not give you what you deserve (@ Brock Turner and others of the like), then the public eye will keep you in the limelight of shame forever and ever- or so I hope. I encourage anyone reading my blogs to feel the same, and support individuals that come forward.


This is How You Lose Her – Junot Diaz



It has been SO LONG since I last posted that wordpress has even changed their layout formats!!! Geez. I’ve had a TON going on lately- a job transfer, a night class, mini-marathon training! I just haven’t had the time to be reading like I would like to… So, sorry for the lack of reviews. Despite the lack of time to read, I have been buying books like a mad woman. I have so many to read, it’s not even funny!! Two of my recent purchases were in preparation for a lecture featuring Junot Diaz in my home state!

From my past reviews, you all know that I LOVED The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz. Seriously, one of the best books I’ve read. When one of my friends mentioned to me that Diaz was going to be giving a lecture in my home state of Indiana, I knew I had to go and meet him!!! I wanted to read all 3 of his novels before going, but that didn’t happen. I just finished up This is How You Lose Her last night. To me, it was not as great as TBWLOOW; it was still good, just not on the same level for me… Reading about Oscar was enjoyable… Reading about cheating stressed me out.

This is How You Lose Her is, at it’s foundation, a “cheaters-guide to love”, and it is tragically heart breaking. You desperately want these people in this book to do better for themselves, and for their significant others. Diaz does SO WELL to translate the pain and emptiness these characters feel throughout the novel. There were multiple times I was thinking to myself “Yunior- you can not fuck away the hole left in your heart.” That is when you know the writing is good- when you mentally are trying to tell the character shit.

This book isn’t pretty. You will not wrap it up feeling good about Yunior and his cheatin-ass ways. But, you will walk away feeling the raw emotions from the words. I think that is what caught me and made me take pause while reading this book… I kept getting too wrapped up in the emotion that the characters were expressing. I think that is why this book still has a high rating (3.74 at the time of this review)… Because, despite the dirty, sneak that you are reading about, you can still appreciate the emotions coming from the book.

As with Oscar, my complaint for this book would be the time hoping/story jumping. At this point, there are still people that were brought up in this story that I have no idea how they related Yunior. I realize some of them were to show us how infidelity was part of Yunior’s entire life, but at the same time, their portion could have been left out and I would have been fine.

Meeting Diaz was a great experience. He is such a knowledgeable person! The lecture was fantastic! Diaz is very intellectual, but also humorous at the right moments (just like his books are). Diaz’s thoughts, especially about America’s current political climate, should be heard. I’ve inserted the video from the lecture onto this post- if you have the time, I would suggest to watch.

So, have you read this book??? Or- have you met an author you absolutely adored? Let me know about them in the comments!!!

As always, thank you for reading! I hope to be posting again very soon!




Meeting Diaz at the McFadden Memorial Lecture in Indianapolis, Indiana

Between Shades of Gray – Ruta Sepetys

Hi all!!


I recently finished Between Shade of Gray by Ruta Sepetys! This novel, like the last Sepetys novel I read, is a work of historical fiction that revolves around WWII. In this novel we follow the story of Lina and her family as they are deported to Russia from Lithuania for “crimes” against the Soviets.  This book was interesting, and enlightening, but it’s hard not to compare it to Salt to the Sea… and, when compared, to me, it just doesn’t hit the same level.

So, BSoG is the story of the Lithuanian family, the Vilkas, who are arrested at night by the Soviet secret police and taken by train to Russia labor camps. Our main character, Lina, her brother, Jonas, and their mother were taken at night from their home, while their father was taken from his job at a school. On the train, they meet the people they will be traveling, and staying with, throughout their imprisonment. The conditions are deplorable on the train. They are not permitted access to bathrooms, nor are they given food and water freely. We follow the 3 Vilkas family members to a labor camp, where they are forced to work for the Soviets, doing whatever the soldiers want them to be doing. They survive the winter just barely; lack of good, nutritious food almost kills Jonas. All in the camp are suffering in some fashion. When the winter finally lets up, they are moved further north to a Siberian labor camp. Here, they face even worse weather conditions. They continue to struggle for food and warm. As more die off due to the terrible conditions, we see Soviets and Americans bringing lots of food (for themselves of course) and other provisions. Eventually (SPOILER), Lina’s mother passes away due to grief from the knowledge that Lina’s father has perished. From then on out, it is up to Lina to protect her brother and survive the harsh conditions life has handed her.

Ok- so, this novel was ok. I knew Russian labor camps were a thing, and also figured that the conditions for the prisons were not good… but to the extent laid out in the book…. it’s hard to believe that this didn’t enrage Americans at this point of time. It’s crazy to me that a blind eye is turned so readily during war times.

I didn’t like that the book has such a time gap with no in between coverage. I would have really liked to know more about the additional 12 years that Lina and her brother spent in camp and how they survived. The letter at the end was just not enough for me to be satisfied with how this story turned out.

I did like how things turned out with officer Nikolai… I like how Sepetys writes these characters that it’s just so hard to hate them, but you can’t love them either. Nikolai is a mean, mean person (throwing the cans), but he also does not have a deep seeded rage hate for these people deemed criminals (giving a ride to the ladies coming from town, allowing Lina to steal wood…) Most importantly, it is his actions that allowed many, many of these people to be saved! If he had not left and notified a doctor of the conditions in the camp, many, many would have perished. I can not hate him because of that alone… but I know he wasn’t a 100% good dude.


So, have you read this book?? I don’t think it’s one that I will purchase, but I’m glad I did check it out from my local library to read it. I would probably recommend it (but only after I recommend SotS!).


Adios, friends!!! I hope you all have a great week!


Salt to the Sea – Ruta Sepetys

“Yes, life can be lonely for the truly exceptional, darling. So I build my own nest and feather it with thoughts of you.

-From page 151 of Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys.

This book, a work of historical fiction, was truly beautifully told. It chronicles the journey of 4 youths during their journeys to the water evacuations in 1945 during WWII at Gotenhafen, Poland. Although this story, specifically the characters, are fictional, the fate of ship within the book (Wilhelm Gustloff) is very much a true, tragic tale of loss. Personally, I had never heard of this boat, or this historically tragic event. Even though it dwarfs events like the Titanic, it simply isn’t common knowledge. Before I get to much on that, lets talk specifically about the book.

Ruta Sepetys did a wonderful job intertwining the stories of the 4 main characters while maintaining a good speed to the story. Each “chapter” reflects thoughts from one of the characters and never is longer than 3-4 pages. The 4 narrators are as follows:

Joana: a trained nurse who left all of her family to perish in her home country of Lithuania. She is constantly brave, but plagued by guilt for not protecting them better. She uses her grief to push forward and help as many people as she can as a form repentance.

Florian: A Prussian runaway “thief” and forger who uses his skill to advance himself to safety. Although he tries to not let others in (trying to protect them from what he has done), he is truly soft in his heart for others.

Emilia: a Polish girl who was sent by her father to a friends home for protection, although she was not wanted by all in the family.In the beginning, she is saved by Florian, and looks to him as a knight. He was the man that saved her, and would save her future.

Alfred: LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT ALFRED. WHAT SCUM. A sniveling coward!!! Although he, obviously, is my least favorite of the characters, he did gift us that must beautiful quote at the top of my blog entry. Alfred, the rash and blister infested German solider, works aboard the Gustloff…. Although, works is a term I would use lightly, because he mostly creeps around and hides to keep from being tasked with duties. His narrations are actually letters about himself and his journey, written to “his” Hannelore, the girl in the “snug red sweater”…. and boy howdy does he think very highly of himself (read as- he is delusional and has an unwarranted since of grandeur).

Each of our 4 characters carries with them secrets that weigh them down differently. Emilia is probably the most optimistic, while Alfred is the most crazed in my opinion. At multiple points in the book I was shocked that Alfred had not starting murdering people yet, he is truly a sociopath.

I think, of them all, I liked Florian’s input the most throughout the book. I loved the love story that flourished in the background of his narrations for Joana, and even the care he had for all the other people in their group.

I must also note that there is a bunch of symbolism in this book! First, lets talk about birds. Good Lordy, there is so much about birds. I don’t particularly like birds, but I felt most references were with care and love. Birds for birth, and birds for marriage, and birds for new beginnings with the season changing. There were also birds for death, and birds for sorrow. So much in this book talked about birds, or nests, or migrations patterns… I think, most importantly, this book noted that birds held optimism (specifically, I felt like the swan was a mark of the future, perhaps a future stolen back for the people?)

Also, there was a lot about shoes. One of the important secondary characters was a shoemaker. He constantly said that the shoe of a person tells of their journey. Most importantly, if their shoes are not in good shape, then surely the personal shall perish too. The meaning I took from this is that, the journey does not have to be kind, but the person must be strong to survive.

Finally, one of my more favorite parts was Emilia’s prediction for the fate of their boat. (SPOILER) “The ship was christened for a man, Wilhelm Gustloff. My father had told me about him. He had been the leader of the Nazi Party in Switzerland.    He was murdered. The ship was born of death.” This prediction, which is from page 218, gave me goosebumps. The foreshadowing throughout was so good, but this one in particular sat with me.

Alright, so this book was very, very good. I truly enjoyed it. It only took me 2 days to finish it. It also encouraged me to look up more about this incredibly tragic ship wreck. An estimated >9,000 people perished on board when the Soviets sent 3 torpedoes to the Gustloff, many of whom died trapped within the ship itself. The capacity of the boat was intended for less than 1,500 people, and at the time it left port, it was estimated that 10,000 people were aboard (about half being children)…. What a tragic, and senseless act of violence. The facts about Gustloff were not published much at the time of the sinking- the Reich did not want to announce this disappointing blow, nor did Soviets want it to be known of the innocent victims included in the carnage… If articles were published, they mostly spoke of a ship with soldiers heading to Germany was sunk by the hands of Soviets… the fact that the majority of the people aboard were civilians, or that the soldiers aboard were injured, was not included. Can you imagine now-a-days if something of this size happened? This was the largest sinking in maritime history, yet it is so rarely known. I find it so unfair that these people suffered so greatly, and  in death they were not honored. I think that is why I appreciated this book… it shed light on story, I feel, that should be told. I feel it gave some honor to the people that tragically died Jan 30, 1945. It proves they weren’t forgotten.

(More information can be found : )

[Also- I was curious for more information about the Soviet Officer, Alexander Marinesko, that sunk the ship. He was not awarded any medals or honors for his duty for the sinking of Gustloff. In fact, apparently, manning the sub that sent the torpedoes was supposed to be some sort of punishment for Marinesko’s activities on New Years Day. You can find out more at this web address:  … I should note that the Wikipedi page was not informative at all. ]

So- all in all, I really liked this book!  My one and only complaint is that we don’t know if Joana ever finds her family, or Florian his sister… buts that is all! I hope my blog entry does it justice, because it is so worth the read… In fact, I borrowed this copy from the library, but I’m surely to purchase it for my shelves. Have you read this book?? Will you add it to your list? Let me know in the comments!

As always, thanks for reading!


Fangirl – Rainbow Rowell

This is the first time that I had to renew a book THREE (3!!!!) times at my library because I just wasn’t getting through it. I checked Fangirl and Modern Romance out at the same time, and, even though both were on my reading lists, I really just didn’t feel like reading them. It took me almost 3 weeks to get 80 pages in… and then I read the rest in one day, so it is a pretty quick read, if you are into it.

So, if you don’t know, Rowell is popular for her quarky love stories, which typically can fall in the “young adult” category…. which this book, to me, is no different.


Cath, and her twin sister, Wren, are beginning their first year at college. Wren loves this college, and the opportunities it provides to meet new people… Cath, however, does not. Cath finds comfort in her FanFiction world, which revolves around a fictional novel by Gemma T Leslie. During the first semester, Cath struggles extremely with her anxieties, self-doubts, and depression. Somewhat abandoned by her sister, Cath feels truly alone at school. On top of that, she also is constantly worrying about her father, who is a bit “eccentric” and “manic” at times. It took her roommate being somewhat forceful to even get her to go to the dining hall (nothing like accused eating disorders to make a girl go eat, I guess….) She is truly an anxious introvert.

As the semester progresses, Cath somewhat opens up to a few people… A couple of people from classes, including Nick from a writing course, Reagan (roommate), Levi (Reagan’s friend/boyfriend??). She begins to find more about herself, especially after her and Abel (high school boyfriend) end things. That is until she is hit with blow after blow near the end of semester. Then during finals week, the final blow takes her back home where she questions whether she ought to go back to school at all….


Personal review (and spoilers!)

Alright, so I’ve read a couple of Rowell’s books and I’m never crazy about them. They are every bit of the weird teen craziness that I’m never super fond of. This is no different. Levi was the only character I was super excited for throughout the whole book… and he was just a weird smattering of personality quarks to me. So here are some complaints about characters:

-Cath: My only complaint with her character was that she didn’t stand up enough for herself in regards to her sister. I understand being reserved with other people, but allowing family to step all over her was so weird to me. They grew up together, she should have been able to lash out with anger at some point. I also didn’t like that she never made it clear, in front of everyone, what Nick had done. She should have been able to yell and get mad in that moment. Instead she ran in and didn’t mention specifically what happened to anyone.

-Wren: seriously, this character drove me crazy the entire book. She was so rude to her sister, blew her off as soon as they got to school.. and befriended a huge bimbo. If I had a family member that acted as Wren did the whole book, I would have blown up on them. Maybe that just says something about me though?

-Art: their dad. I still do not understand his character. Lack of development is my complaint here.

-Laura: their mom. again, lack of development. (I was happy Cath kept her stance throughout the book about her mom, though).


Overall, this book was… okay. Levi was probably the best character of the book- only because his character felt true and honest and patient throughout. Even when he messed up with *the kiss*, he still tried to make it right later on. I can appreciate that. I’m not huge into fanfiction, but this book made me see why it would be popular.. That part of the book was, to me, new and unusual. I haven’t read a book about a person writing fanfiction. Otherwise, some of the characters just lacked the depth that I would have liked them to have. It just felt so… stereotypical… to me.


Have you read this book? What did you think about it??


Have a great week, Friends!